Dear Gemma,
You’re absolutely not alone in wondering how anyone manages to walk (let alone strut!) in high heels. Trust me — even the most seasoned stiletto lovers have had their share of sore arches and blistered toes. But the good news? There are ways to make your heels more comfortable, and it all starts with the right prep, padding, and pair.
First, let’s talk fit. One of the biggest reasons heels hurt is that they simply don’t match your foot shape. If they’re too tight, you’ll get pinching and blisters. Too loose, and your foot will slide forward, putting pressure on your toes. Everyone’s feet are different — some have narrow soles, others are wider — so it’s important to shop accordingly. Many brands offer wide and narrow width options, and taking the time to find a pair that truly suits your foot shape will go a long way in boosting comfort.
Next comes my secret weapon: padding. Invest in some cushy insoles made specifically for heels — gel inserts, ball-of-foot cushions, heel grips, or even full-length arch support pads. These little helpers redistribute pressure and prevent your feet from sliding or rubbing, which can make a world of difference in comfort.
Let’s not forget about heel height — the higher the heel, the more strain you’re putting on the balls of your feet. Super tall stilettos might look fierce, but they can leave you aching. If you want height without the pain, opt for a lower kitten heel or a platform style, which reduces the angle of your arch and helps relieve pressure.
And here’s something most people forget: heels need to be broken in. Just like any new shoe, a fresh pair of heels should never be worn out for the first time on a big night. Instead, wear them around the house in short bursts, ideally with thick socks to help soften the material and stretch them out gently. If they’re stiff, a quick blast with a hair dryer (on low heat!) while flexing the shoe can help loosen things up.
A few more quick tips:
- Block heels or wedges offer better stability and are much easier on your feet than skinny heels.
- Platform heels can give you the look without the severe angle.
- Try a slightly smaller band size in open-toe or slingback styles to improve grip (but only if it still feels comfortable).
And lastly, listen to your body. If something feels off, it probably is. There’s no shame in slipping into a cute pair of flats after your moment in heels — pain doesn’t have to be part of the femme fantasy.
Strut smart and stay glamorous!
Hugs,
Katie
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